I’m sorry as fuck I’m straight despite exploring as a teen!
I’m sorry as fuck I’m CIS!
I’m sorry as fuck that I enjoy things from other cultures!
I guess the only reason I’m not insta-shunned from Tumblr is because I’m not Christian! (I’m pantheist).
Tumblr is the only place where I feel shamed for being who I am EVEN WHEN I AM NOT SHOVING IT IN OTHER PEOPLE’S FACES.
Fuck you Tumblr. Fuck you. You fail sometimes.
Welcome to the backlash. Don’t apologize. Be yourself. YOU were born to be an individual expression, so be the best one you can be and if someone has a problem with it, it’s their problem.
I’m sorry that you’re not getting the point. No-one is mad because you’re white, straight and cis. People are mad because people aren’t getting that they have privileges over people who aren’t white, straight and cis.
I’m white and pass as neurotypical, I am not ashamed of who I am but I am well aware that I have privilege over others, and if I do not accept that and make shitty posts about how being white is wonderful, I am an arsehole.
Yes, being white is wonderful. Being white is that wonderful that I don’t need to make posts about how I don’t need to be ashamed of my white-ness because no-one tells me I should be.
People tell me that I should be ashamed of white privilege (or het privilege and etc) and it’s true. I should, and I am. I am ashamed of the stuff that I can get away with because of the colour of my skin, not of the actual colour of it.
That’s a pretty good laugh that you think I’m missing the point.
I am not ashamed that I have “privilege” just by incident. I am not ashamed that by some cosmic coincidence, I was born with a certain skin tone and that gave me certain privileges.
What I AM obligated to do, is to use my privilege to it’s full extent (not as a white/cis/straight/neurotypical individual, but as a DECENT HUMAN BEING, is) to elevate everyone around me to an equal level. Including elevating myself as a woman to a man’s level (rights, job wages, etc.)
And beyond that, “Backlash” isn’t going to help anyone.
Its good to know the signs. Even if they aren’t physically abusive.
Feeling afraid of your partner.
Walking on eggshells; avoiding talking about/doing things in fear ofangering them.disappointing them.
You can never do right by your partner.
You believe you deserve to be hurt and mistreated.
You feel emotionally numb and helpless.
Humiliates or yells at your.
Criticizes and puts you down.
Ignored or demean your opinions.
Blames you for the problems in the relationship and their behavior.
Sees you as property.Parades you as property.
Makes you afraid to see friends and family.
Has a bad and unpredictable temper.
Threatens you, or threatens to kill themself if you leave.
Forces you to have sex (You can be forced into sex even if in a relationship or married, if you do not give consent, verbal or not, it is rape. It does not have to prove you love them either, that is also guilting). Not forced, but most certainly coerced.
Destroys your belongings.
Acts excessively jealous and possessive.
Controls where you go and what you do.
Limits your access to means of connecting with the outside world. Distancing you from your friend and limiting your social group thereby isolating you.
Constantly checks up on you.
It Is Still Abuse If …
The incidents of physical abuse seem minor when compared to those you have read about, seen on television or heard other women talk about. There isn’t a “better” or “worse” form of physical abuse; you can be severely injured as a result of being pushed, for example.
The incidents of physical abuse have only occurred one or two timesin the relationship. Studies indicate that if your spouse/partner has injured you once, it is likely he will continue to physically assault you.
The physical assaults stopped when you became passive and gave up your right to express yourself as you desire, to move about freely and see others, and to make decisions. It is not a victory if you have to give up your rights as a person and a partner in exchange for not being assaulted!
There has not been any physical violence. Many women are emotionally and verbally assaulted. This can be as equally frightening and is often more confusing to try to understand.
Source: Breaking the Silence: a Handbook for Victims of Violence in Nebraska
You don’t have to be afraid.
US: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
UK: 0808 2000 247
Australia: 1800 737 732
Tell me I wasn’t in a fucking abusive relationship for two years. Go on. I FUCKING dare you.
Highlighted and edited are the things that happened in that relationship.
In the continuing series of “surprisingly honest and even feminist stuff on Cracked.com” articles, author David Wong looks at the main reasons men hate and resent women. He argues that a mix of social conditioning and genetics make men paranoid about women’s ulterior motives AND leads them to believe women owe them something just for existing.
Like I said, surprisingly honest stuff. Although I’m having a *little* trouble taking this article seriously when this is the ad running beneath it: